feat(download): one grab per Soulseek peer, several peers at once

slskd was capped at one transfer per daemon, on the grounds that
Soulseek peers punish clients that ask for too much. That politeness is
per peer: two different users do not compete for anyone's upload slot.
So one slow peer serialised every other Soulseek download behind it.

The manager now takes a per-(provider, peer) lock before any slot, so a
grab waiting on a busy peer does not hold a provider slot another peer
could use, and the slskd default rises to 3, which now counts peers.
The help text says so.

Running grabs at once exposed the folder collision: slskd names a
download's directory after the remote leaf folder, so two peers'
"Greatest Hits" (or any two rips' "CD1") share one directory, and
collect finds files by name there. Grabs whose local folders overlap
now take a package-level lock per folder, in sorted order, keyed on the
full path because two clients can share one daemon.

Closes #272

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_017HJiuc3ZZhxsPXz3ozTirT

backend/download/provider.go

@@ -236,17 +236,18 @@ func Register(d Descriptor, c Constructor) {
 }
 
 // concurrencyField describes the per-provider transfer limit, with help
-// text explaining why the default is what it is — a user who raises
-// slskd from 1 to 8 and gets themselves queued behind every other
-// Soulseek user deserves to have been warned.
+// text explaining what the number means where it means something
+// unusual: on slskd it counts peers, since each peer is only ever asked
+// for one folder at a time whatever it is set to.
 func concurrencyField(k Kind) Field {
 	help := "Maximum simultaneous transfers from this client."
 
 	if k == KindSlskd {
-		help = "Maximum simultaneous transfers. Soulseek peers serve " +
-			"one file at a time and queue or ban clients that ask for " +
-			"more, so 1 is both the polite setting and usually the " +
-			"fastest."
+		help = "How many Soulseek users to download from at once. " +
+			"Each user is only ever asked for one album at a time, " +
+			"since peers queue or ban clients that ask for more; " +
+			"this bounds how many different users are asked in " +
+			"parallel."
 	}
 
 	return Field{